Do you get that? You know how sometimes there are things in your world that aren’t okay, but sometimes there are other things that make the original not-okay thing a little teeny bit okay? I was reflecting on those things the other day.
Item the First: Winter
I mean okay, I live in Calgary, where there is winter. I accept that there is winter (but I don’t like it much, most of the time). Some of the things that make winter slightly more okay are hand knit mittens, hot chocolate, twinkle lights, and hoar frost*.
E___ made me smile yesterday morning as she was muddling through the piles of coats. “Is it minus-ice-cube outside?”, she asked. Yes, it was minus-ice-cube, and she did indeed need to wear her winter coat.
Item the Second: Head Colds
There is nothing to like about a head cold. Except that it is NOT as bad a migraine, and I just got two new bottles of OTC cold medication. (DayQuil and NyQuil, hurray!!)
Item the Third: Cleaning The House
I’m not a huge fan of cleaning and anyone who knows me can tell that a) I have a clutter tendency and b) I also have object blindness when it comes to knitting. I really, really have to concentrate to recognize both clutter and knitting projects. I think it’s perfectly normal to have a sweater project on the piano, socks to knit by the leather chair, socks to darn on the other side of the leather chair, and a lace project in a bag on the coffee table. Isn’t that how everyone’s living room looks?
I try and defuse my irritation with housecleaning by reframing it as “creating a warm and loving home for my family”. I also think: hey, I have a house that I can afford to live in and heat. Also, I pick my battles. The bathrooms are clean but the mantle is dusty. I do dishes once a day – after supper. If people** don’t like it, then they can dust or do dishes themselves.
Item the Fourth: THE FIGHT TO GET TO SCHOOL
If I had a dollar for every morning this school year that has taken place with neither of the littles saying “I don’t want to go to school” I’d be able to buy you and I each a Starbucks coffee. I swear. They use the same line, I use the same line. I have never, not ever!, said “Yeah, you present a good case. You can stay home and watch Netflix. Why not?” I’ve never said “Keep trying, someday I’ll say ‘yeah school is not worth it’.”
Some conflict is to be expected when two small not-morning people are confronted by another not-morning person in the morning. Despite that, I’m still glad because I live in a place where my (girl) children can be safely educated. They can learn and become anything.
Item the Fifth: Pine Needles In My Socks
Now, pine needles in my socks are irritating. But they fell off of our Xmas tree, so I feel sort of okay about them.
And what a lovely segue for me to sign off and go and vacuum the pine needles up. Our tree is doing quite well, but he is (as always) shedding needles.
Hope that you are snug and warm with people you love as we all approach the darkest day of the year.
**The man is the only person who has ever done dishes or dusted or started vacuuming. When he does, I make a specific parenting choice and continue doing whatever I’m doing so that the girls see that men clean too, it’s not just the mom’s job. (And if a man is cleaning, there is no need for the woman of the house to begin racing around to try and out-clean him.)